Dating in Your 30s: Why it's the BEST time to Date

4 Common Myths about Dating in your 30s and Why Dating in your 30s is the BEST time to date

Dateable Podcast
March 21, 2024

So, you've hit the big 3-0 and suddenly the dating scene feels like uncharted territory. But fear not, because dating in your 30s is a journey filled with excitement, growth, and yes, plenty of opportunities to find love. It may feel like ‘all the good ones are taken’ or ‘time is running out,’ but that’s simply not the case. If you need a reminder that the best is yet to come, then we got you! 

Let's dive into the myths, realities, and exciting possibilities that come with dating in your 30s.

Myth #1: Time is Running Out

There's this unspoken rule that by a certain age, you should have it all together – career, family, the whole shebang. But guess what? Life doesn't follow a one-size-fits-all script, and neither does love. The fear of dating after 30 often stems from this pressure to conform to societal norms. But here's the truth – there's no expiration date on love, and your journey is uniquely yours. So, let go of those unrealistic expectations, embrace your individuality, and get ready to rewrite the rules of dating on your own terms.

It's easy to feel left behind when it seems like everyone else is ticking off life milestones while you're still figuring things out. But  reality check – life isn't a race, and love certainly isn't a competition. Your journey is unfolding at its own pace, and comparing yourself to others only adds unnecessary stress. So, let go of the comparisons, embrace your unique path, and trust that the right person will come along when the time is right.

That being said, we're not going to ignore the biological clock – a topic that can stir up a whirlwind of emotions, from anxiety and fear to hope and longing. For many of us in our thirties, the ticking of this metaphorical time bomb can feel like a constant reminder of unmet expectations and looming deadlines. We’re not here to minimize this very real pressure, but it’s important to remember there are options and people are starting families later than ever before. Whether you're considering egg freezing, exploring alternative family-building options, or simply focusing on personal growth and fulfillment, the choice is yours to make. Your thirties are a time for introspection, exploration, and intentional choices. So, try your best to tune out the noise. Listen to your heart, and trust that everything will fall into place in due time.

Myth #2: Everyone Good is Already Taken

Repeat after us: the belief that all the good ones are taken is simply not true! In fact, more people are popping up in the dating world than ever before. People are delaying relationships for career progression and education – or even looking for their second shot of love after a relationship that didn't work out for the long-haul. Reframe what "good" even means too. Just because someone got into a relationship in their 20s doesn't mean they are better or worse than anyone who didn't. It simply means they were either more relationship minded earlier on or got lucky in meeting their person. After all, you're single , right? And we know you're a catch so that's living proof that there are still good ones out there! 

Myth #3: It's Harder to Meet People

Contrary to popular belief, your 30s are full of opportunities to meet new people, forge meaningful connections, and maybe even find that elusive thing called love. Whether you're swiping right on dating apps, attending social events, or simply striking up conversations with interesting strangers, the dating pool is vast and full of potential. Yes, you' may no longer be in school or frequenting  the same bars or clubs as you did in your 20s, but this doesn't mean your social life is over! In fact, we'd guess you're probably more in-tune with yourself so you can funnel your attention into activities you actually enjoy. The reality is that it's hard to meet people at any age (especially in today's digital world!) At 30, you can date up or down in age. You can still go out to the club or to a seminar  about climate change. Embrace the fact that you have so many options and people at your fingertips!  So, ditch the scarcity mindset, open yourself up to new experiences, and watch as the possibilities unfold. New people are popping into the dating world at all ages nowadays so it's simply untrue that all the good ones are taken.

Myth #4: Everyone has baggage

There's a perception that by the time you're in your 30s, everyone has a lot of baggage from past relationships or life experiences.  But the thing is having life experience or knowing what you want out of life can help you find someone who aligns with your goals. Past heartbreak can actually help you grow and find the right partner.  While may meet more people who are divorced or who have kids, see this as a benefit instead of baggage.  Maybe you'll be that bonus parent or you'll date someone more emotionally available because they've taken the time to process their past relationship.

So now that we've dispelled these myths: Why Dating in Your 30s is the BEST time to date!

Your attitude towards dating can make all the difference in the world. Instead of focusing on the negatives or dwelling on past disappointments, why not reframe your mindset and focus on the positives?

First off, you know yourself better than ever before!  Celebrate your strengths, embrace your quirks, and approach dating with a sense of curiosity and optimism. Your thirties are a time of empowerment, self-discovery, and endless possibilities. When it comes to relationships, prioritize authenticity, vulnerability, and meaningful connections – because by now, you know what's important! You have more maturity and emotional intelligence to actually have a HEALTHY relationship if you use your single time to prepare for your great love that's just around the corner (and we're here at Dateable to help with just that!)

But most importantly, live your incredible life! Try to remember what makes being single so special! Whether you're traveling the world, pursuing your passions, or simply savoring the everyday moments, every experience shapes who you are and what you bring to the table. Don't underestimate the value of your journey – it's what makes you uniquely you and will be what ultimately attracts the right partner for you anyways. Whether you're building friendships, nurturing romantic relationships, or exploring new social circles, the bonds you cultivate along the way are what truly enrich your life.

Dating in your 30s is a journey filled with twists, turns, and unexpected detours. Embracing impermanence and uncertainty can be liberating, especially when it comes to dating in your 30s. Instead of clinging to rigid expectations or chasing an elusive happily-ever-after, why not embrace the adventure? Change your perspective, broaden your horizons, and watch as new possibilities unfold before your eyes. Being single in your thirties isn't a curse – it's an opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and intentional living. So, lean into the unknown, trust the process, and let the magic of the journey guide you. By breaking free from societal expectations, embracing impermanence, and prioritizing meaningful connections, you can create a dating experience that's as fulfilling as it is rewarding.

So, strap in, buckle up, and get ready for the ride of a lifetime – because the best is yet to come!

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