Bonus Check in with Past Guests Part III

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The Dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the Huffington post calls one of the top ten podcast about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about. From sex parties to sex droughts, date fails a diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host Yue Xu, former dating coach turned dating sociologists. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Krafchick as we explored this crazy dateable world.

Everyone welcome to another episode of dateable. A show all about modern dating. So we're doing a check in episode where we are reaching out to some of your favorite guest to see what's new with them all right. Let's start with our first pass. Guest whenever i say your name i just wanna sing it. It's just like very for seventy perfect one syllable to be able to hit whatever pitch union how are you. I'm doing great Just starting to pep up. Burn to the burning dancing otherwise. And that's my big thing at the moment so we haven't caught up with you in a long time. You're all the way back from season. Two episode four in an episode called. Are we asking too much of tinder. And just reminder a refresher for our listeners. What happened to this episode. Was sam told us about a story where he met this girl on tinder and it seemed like they had a really cool online connection. He planned this first date with her where it was something very romantic on a rooftop rooftop park where you made lunch for both of us rim salad yoke shrimp salad with scouts. Sculpting saleh's gallup is just a little bit more really is you basically had me a scallop as is but then you add on the rooftop hark it just sounded so perfect anyway. The girl never ended up showing up so you reach out to her again. Giving her a second chance and she Asks you to meet her at the bar where she was. Dj not like that. She was basically promoting herself as a dj. Because there was another guy there who was also there to see her. It's safe to say you never saw her again. But it is safe to say you. I think interesting about that episode. The reason why we call it are we asking too much of tinder is that are we expecting too much from people that we mean on these dating apps or should these these sort of meet ups and dates be more casual and i think our conclusion was no. I think people should just be more accountable for their actions and treat each other with respect. So where are you these days when it comes to dating a two to efforts to those parts of so i've recently more heavily back on the market and hangs in looking looking for something real and everything in san francisco but i think we're where i might disagree with you you would be In terms of the how we utilize that eating apps. I think we're i have now changed. My tune or approach is that i approached the first day as being the are you a real person. And like you can be accountable. That's the leading factors weed out like the bags and then two is where. I'm likely to be more inventive and come up with something fun for the days And do you find that to be a more effective use of their time. Totally more Because for a couple of ways One i don't end up spending a lotta time planning a date for somebody who turned out no similar interests none of up this way. There's no possibility of becoming something real which Which i think for especially app like tinder bumbler whatever. It's way too easy for that because you don't know anything really about the person but Okay keep it less though because you'd have all that more information it gives the but The the other aspect of it if at At the one girl in san francisco for a bit and one of the issues we ran into is that on number of inundates. Had she every time we went to do something romantic. We already been on that date with somebody else before. That is definitely interesting like out. Cup of cereal data out about irritating were each day to the first state and why we all the best dates in san francisco on somebody who like. I don't know it's really interesting that you say this because i think there's twofold to it like we have talked to people have said this really is a i like you lent someone out in the real world.

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That would be date the first time you met them. So this is kind of treating at the same way and if you change your mindset with that that's one approach maybe for other things take away from this. You're female if your date isn't like off the charts for date one. Maybe it's nothing more than a reflection of this different mentality of just meeting in. They might step up their game in subsequent dates of a become something. Well also the consequence of all of this is that we talked to several people who say that you know. Some people are not receptive to a very elaborate for a state. Because they're just not used to it. It's not the status quo anymore. We're so used to casual for a standard. They don't want to get stuck with someone of the i was. I went on a date once for dinner with the first state from one app and it was painful because you got star entertainment. Tate's work ask one question to everyone though. Why are you spending the time and energy meeting people in real life for these predates when you could just call them on the phone. You gather the same sort of information those you think like in the same way that texting someone. If you don't know them by text you have a lot of loss of communication and so like Irony doesn't come through as well coming. Come through as well and so. It's it feels weird. I think the same thing happens with with two thirds voices is twenty times better than text but then like when i see a precipitate so i see like away. They smile the way. They giggle the wave like not. How're banter develops. You can do that over the phone. But i think it works even better with video. Maybe video chatting. They didn't have to be the solution but the i think like the the closer to personalize the faster. I can determine if i like or don't like a person could see that because you don't know how to interpret the way they talk as much but there's been so many first dates that i was like i could eliminate this entire. Just call them on the phone and realize that. This person is a mute. You know i think the edge case wants but maybe if you just do the prescreen and then go instill. They're like if you're on the edge. Maybe worth meeting them in person. Yes i would love to see more more ways to like still ter- people out on whatever internet dating people using I think that was the one true. Brilliant okay keep it. As i found in my of of my friends and people who have dated in the past didn't meet throw cupid if later on we've found each other like that silly like after we spoken up. Anyone who had offended to really date has always been incredibly high match like ninety five percent or more the more i can whittle down to like the people who at least get along with on a belief level and like an interest then like a what long term. You'll dr then. At least like the only thing i'm going to lake them as a person right are secretly a trump supporter or something. Are you a serial dating right now. I think it's more parallel rather than cereal juice. Go after all the woman casually dating a the goal is certainly to be more focused dating. I prefer to be seeing one person but Until i'm more casually seeing people until i meet that person and decide which and to get to know people to doj on what happened to girl that you were just seeing oh we ran into the whole like non monogamy and how that plays out issue and like spiral downwards. You know the fastest standard trap. I'm so mixed on this slight approach that you just mentioned not to i on one side. I totally get what you're saying about saving your time and not claiming laboratory especially for men that are paying for them. I totally get that but then at the other side. It's like we complain that we're not giving people enough of a chance. Yeah like really putting our best foot four. It's like what what's the line i think. If you know very little about the person going into it you can have your heart dealbreakers that you can quickly rule people out for Like for me. One of hers dealbreakers. The worst states have ever been on have always been where we just have nothing to talk about. We're stuck sitting there staring at each other.

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i can talk to a brick wall cedar. I have trouble having a conversation with somebody like we're we have real problems and as i've been a couple of those dates and i don't need to give that a second round like i know right there. This is not the one for me. I get where you're conflicted julie. Because i think the reason why we're doing this to ourselves is because we don't put much weight on that first date so it doesn't go well. We're like whatever it was just a drink have another day plan for right after this or like tomorrow right but what's happening is that we're not put because we are not putting so much weight on these dates. They're kind of risk free that we don't actually put in as much as an investment on that person and you know we're not investing time on that person on a first date then they do become commodities and they we we are able to just never texted him again or call them again so i really think people need to pick much better who they go on. I with even though you think it's casual you're still investing your time energy and money and that's still an investment. It's not casual. There are still risks. Involved in so you should be filtering better and picking better and not think of it as just. Oh it's just a casual because at the end of the day. It's not a casual. Meet up where you're trying to find love. It's not that casual. it should be more invested or if it is casual as what you end up with. That's true. Yeah officials like we need to have better strategies for how we then make sure. The people do pick to spend more time with our dining in the redirection. Absolute like this is. This keeps going a does like just the age-old question. What do we do these times. Yes it won't be answered but at least we're discussing it right. Yeah you gotta find your own approach that we're right. That's really the only answer. Sam on your own when you were on the show last time. We put a link to your tinder profile. How can always right in may could always Nine sam love your arguments relationship. Ed offensively as much as san francisco gets get extra points of their dj or do they lose points. Okay well if you're listening to this and you're a sensible monogamous. You should definitely sam or reach out to us and we'll put you in touch. Thanks so much for the update sam and eighty year hiding. How are you i do. I'm doing wow. Since we recorded your episode which was from season four episode sixteen called y you cannot find the one which by the way is probably one of the the most popular episode comments about it and how well spoken universe so i think we had quite a few people write in and say. Can you connect me with heidi. 'cause i really wanna pick her brain about a similar topic So what's been happening. What's what's your update. Did i just made public. So my update. Is that the person that i had been seen off and on for the last year and a half now has just moved in with me and kind of expedited relationship is. I am very pregnant. Oh how many months Seven and a half and a standard case of naught. The linear fairytale relationship. Everything and we had you know all of our time and we got all the you know decided to get engaged and then get married and then lived together and then talked about babies right. Everything happened in a very non linear fashion. But isn't that the way things were. He's as a sort of lives so much could happen. In the course of the year in the police of a month and things get expedited. We've had friends who were extremely single. Still dancing on bars one week. And then next week shacked up and third and now dr things happen in a very non linear fashion. So do you know the sex of your baby. Are you revealing that yet. Oh yes a little girl congrats.

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Thank you thank you. It was it was quite a surprise is but took some adjustment time of but you know now now that we've kind of settled in and embraced it Both really happy now aren't thinking about all the great things and adventures. We can take her on and stuff we can do together. And you know we're both were both pretty committed to living a fun adventurous life with her and he has a little boy to on. It's almost four so kennedy a patchwork to family but But it. But i really happy one. Until it'll be a quilt. That keeps us warm. So how did this pregnancy. et's or dynamic while in the beginning at one that something we were ready for right it. Just our relationship wasn't in that place. We had just gotten back together after taking some some time off and You know had hoped that we would have a lot more time together for adventures in far off traveled to all those zeka infused eaten. We actually a plan you know to go to all these places and then a headed changed them so it was an adjustment period of not being. Sure you're ready in this happening all too soon you know. Is it the right time and went through. Quite hurdles took you know went through a lot of soul searching night name and then you know just of both independently came to the conclusion that No we're or in and it'll be a different model you know you don't feel a need to get married at least not right now. But let's let's try and see if we can. We can make something work an increased something. that's ours that's unique and not feel any pressure to do what society seems to tell us we need to do. You wanted children that frozen. My eggs is kind of hilarious anxiety to women as they get into their later. Mid to late thirties about fertility. There's a lot of hyphen crate. Yes our bodies are a lot more capable than we think. We're we're not stressing about about pregnancy. So yeah i did i just. I just didn't know exactly how it was going to happen. I thought it was going to happen for us. It would be. It would be a little ways out who we answer this question if you feel comfortable answering. But what was that. Initial breaking the news to him. How does that conversation go down. He it was good hugh hit. Just he'd just been away on ski trips. I wanted to wait. Tell him in person when he was back and yeah he was like so we were up early in the morning. Just laying there talking and success and he was great and you know and is very positive about it and You know he's not the type of person that's going to freak out or or make someone feel bad. It's you know we're we're both people took our time to think through what this would mean. And if we were ready and it took a lot of time in soul-searching to get their talked about this before having kids we knew i mean he knew it was something that i mean. He said he already has a son. Something that i wanted. But we hadn't made definite plans or anything more just something that was out. There is pregnancy going. It's okay like i'm feeling more and more uncomfortable right now as i'm getting larger The first trimester is most can attest to is is not fun at all. Because you're so exhausted all the time And you starting to notice all these body changes and warm owns that. You're feeling sick. And then you feel kind of like a rockstar. On your second trimester gets comparatively. It's so much better and then by the time the third one comes around you start to kind of slow down again but we were just in hawaii. We just got back from hawaii things that everyone loves so much about your episode or just all the wisdom that you kind of distilled on us about finding the one and like not using lists and all of that what was gonna you got in from this experience. Thank you have your life under control more of it all. I don't know it'll go crazy on you. The more he tried to control things the more out of control the get and if things you worry about aren't the things end up actually happened in riot exactly and i thank you know as far as relationships go. I think you know patients and forgiveness. I think i've learned a lot of too because because it wasn't a natural progression it was hard.

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I mean it's hard to know that you're not ready. You're someone else's aren't ready or you're not at the right place. And i think giving someone patients and forgiving him for not being perfect all the time or forgiving yourself for not being perfect or life or not imperfect is is really important so i think i learned a lot of that Through this and i think that's really important for people to understand. I think a lot of people both men and women are really in a rush to force someone into a relationship and to be this perfect person and dote on them and do everything at once and they get all been out of shape if someone space or someone needs to process or someone needs to go slower and they turn really need in. Your neediness isn't isn't love it all right. So cases love and forgiveness and all of those other things And i think you know taking the time to kind of work through that and understand what's really important in allowing space and time so we kinda return own conclusion was still was a huge learning in in different than i. I'd probably been in the past much more impatient for everything to be perfect and someone to go at my tastes before. So was this a surprise because you used protection them. Planning you didn't think gonna happen. This quickly. it was. It was both got it upset. I love that you said you. Got your ex-president because Eighty percent of people who get explosion ended up not using their frozen eggs so too. It's more of a mental thing than anything else burr. Women that yeah exactly. So i wish i had that money now no refunds crypt by all nursery wing for that money value. Usually maybe can donate them. Seldom lifestyle black market for him. Frozen eggs unused. Okay i'm down took business. Well thank you. Heidi for checking in with us. Congratulations this is very. We can't wait your baby girl. Hey hers from season to in an episode called hashtag millennial because you're a resident millennial connecticut tender age hurting textured attorney twenty six. Yeah you're still below. I mean god where millennials but i don't feel like and also you're going to do you do know that you're going to be a millennial no matter. What age does i give her. I'll i'll be in my forties or even fifties malone right. That's crazy world cup like all old your emoji on point hot sunny months that i've been using like the prayer one. Yeah the glava. I have not at all know what's the latest. What's the latest. We'll let me let me pull up is frequently used to go lately. What's your time right now. So it looks like you know the one where your hands that your head or the emergent had like. You're questioning something. oh Yeah what's gone interesting. Apparently matt pretty often lately star. There's a star heart that i have the week. Of course we go to wink wink. Wink with Honestly and sadly. I've been very single so i haven't really had a committee. Phase can use these emojis. So i'm still still out there. No i never talking about that extra. Yes refunding kind of which is really job. I started seeing more. It was inevitably going to add hardly and it was like even more than i could imagine Which was bad so that just happened.

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Back in the game I think like because she was always there i. I wasn't really proactive. about china. need someone new. And now that it's finally john I'm kinda just getting back out there. I met someone the other night at a cool tonight. Life of that counter number. You're supposed to have drinks last night. But i think she's clicking clink if you have an accent in your life that's not even a real boyfriend or girlfriend like it's really hard to meet someone else. If you're preoccupied. I tell you last time i told you arizona. I was like you need to off. It was my did not work out the second time. I just can't cut trying to make it work in the issues. Like the dark parts of her and i guess is we're always come out like there would be great moments and then a couple of hours later just hit the fan like yelling at me when we're in line at a club because there's a long why why you yelling. How big deal showing at so. It was just the whole mess. And and now i feel like i'm entering a new phase of dating because i did but i went to san francisco. I did the apps for like a year. Obviously i met someone. And obviously i did the whole broadcast and my thing that i had this fear that i had this experience which has on offer eager which is crazy about But i haven't been on like a new first day in like probably close to a year today announced a new phase. I'm not really happening. I'm kind of just chilling. I don't and just Scott to like put myself out there i guess. What would the experts from date of well. The last time before we get to that. The last time i saw you was when we were filming the sponsor a goal. Don't think i've found this one's for us. We're still working on the on. Go back to jail. You're saying something that was really interesting because you were walking with my boyfriend died. who could. Who's older your dad. We established that. And like i approve you. You're saying that he. And i both could not stop discussing right after was that you liked a girl you guys like had hung out and you weren't sure if she liked you back. But based on her social media activity you felt like she liked you because she watched all your snapchat. Unliked your instagram. Is this still or deciding if someone's into you. Question and one hundred percent may not the way they connected obviously tax thing is. I mean if we're attacked back and forth clears convenient. But if she's not washing shots or during an instagram like that she didn't care she didn't care about their she discounted. That actually just happened. I met this woman on saturday and of course after getting number name. I looked her up on every social platform. Wars going to find her Ended up like so the way i found. I found her length in three out like every everyone i couldn't find her face or integrate hurley. Did but if this actually turned into something my. I don't know if it would have caused issue by like that's how i connected with a lot of people have been calling even though i like calling off. Here's and give us a rundown of what's in without is snapchat still cool and the social world. Oh cool but yeah. That's so cool. I think it's losing some of the spice to instagram stories but because instagram diabetic for like the private one to one ab twelve eighty. You know you guys are like check saying or sending some as promiscuous pick is not really a snapchat will always have a place for that. I suppose i used to have snapchat and instagram. And i felt like it was double the work to post a both so then i just went all the way to instagram now. How do you decide which platform to post your stories on a great question. So instagram story somewhere. That i don't know like ask this really cool. Swanky out there show for catering. Hot or out at the asthmatics. Good like that.

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That's the type of environment where you're going instagram story. Because kinda fell right in the fact that you're you're kind of like in the in the theme that sat still mostly personal habit quirks that all my good friend. No doubt me so. Instagram is more for. If you wanna brag about something and snapchat is just want to show people the mundane things you do in your daily life. So i was. I was with a millennial this weekend. Sorry to cheat on you but he basically said that instagram was a your creative canvas to express yourself where snapchat was more to communicate with that when my dating twitter page of the of the cording. We're talking about what he is. Let's go let's go through entire life stage so i Of a doubt. I think it's instagram facially I think that's the they used to be facebook but now we're going to follow each other preferably while we're together. I think it's a nice little quirky thing to get to know. Someone like follow each other while you're with the other person who And then you kind of like. Oh my god you do that or ren folly to wow. That's crazy all the guys listening added we've also Then after that probably snapchat But you gotta be careful with that at some of those nuances occurred that i was talking about. Maybe you're not ready to share those with the other person so be careful with that and then probably facebook towards the end honestly like did i mean you're still gonna look each other traits book early fainthearted i. It's just not the same so harrison. what else is going on your life. Because we know you were at facebook you left face by working warm working on frustrating full-time then we're yeah. It's it's exciting. It's challenging because everyone is trying to create like great content today But i finally have a new a new team. I a star cocaine often video producer. We're we're trying to create like web series about f- f- light not just dating but everything you know that's a that's kind of what's going down in my one final thought i guess but question that's kinda interesting So a lot of my friends are breaking up wreath of twenty five twenty six twenty seven it just what it is. I mean. I feel that people together right now. They're either gonna. they're say all right. We're going to do this. An expert at four years never going to get married or cut the cord right now. Forty guys what you guys say to those quarter life crisis. People are freaking out about everything in kansas. Be happy paid today. Yeah i totally That comes from 'cause personally speaking at five twenty five point six with my most tumultuous time to date. Because i assure what i wanted to do professionally. I didn't know if the guy i was with was the one. I had a lot of questions so it was a lot of That's when i quit my corporate job to pursue another career. Because i go off on my own because i felt like i wasn't fulfilled at work. So is a lot of a lot of milestones happened during that time and one of them was breaking up with someone. You knew it is. You don't fully ourselves thin so like you start to question a lot in some interrelationship relationship than often. That person is questions yet. So i think it totally makes sense especially if some of these people showed been with someone for a couple years when you're like twenty one twenty two you're not really thinking about the future with someone like you're just go have fun blah girlfriend like twenty five twenty six heads and you're like is this the person i'm going to be with or do i want to explore more so i think it just opens up some questions. Yeah yeah wow. I love it from the experts and for any listeners. My em's are still open. child Yeah for taking some time. Then and kate low than engaged. We've seen guy so much that it's almost like we don't really know you catch up with our listeners.

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To the hell is happening with you guys. Kate are from season three episode. A episode cult married with options. Now they're in a poly-amorous marriage and they talk about in this episode specifically what it's like to be in a marriage earlier. Your husband is swiping on tinder. Next to you in bed. Sometimes and also you go on dates with other people in how you establish those boundaries as well as some guidelines on how to have a poly relationship so vindicate the latest with you guys i i got sort of dumps on wednesday somewhat feeling great about that. Yeah you guys are on the on the bleeding edge of the news here Jumps as a strong word. We really only went on one day but like there was somebody that i've known for a couple of months and he's made so many efforts to find reasons to talk to me like curious. Shout and said oh. I know that you're having this event and you could use. My house is a location. Like why don't you come over and take a look and see if it'd be a good application like okay and then we had like almost a very civil business meeting and then another time iowa's hosting an event as pride and he likes stops body of anti like went out of his way to come and spend time with Suddenly thinking okay this is really in may and then finally asmat man proper date and i said yes. I would be excited to go on a date with you on monday. We have socks. It was great. And then he leaves town for his like acacia and for two weeks and i sent him a couple of lake sexy messages like sex at him and he just like no response and finally like oh know i just sleep a lot. I go to bed at like nine pm woods and a lady he's like i don't know like maybe forty lecture. Whatever all getting older like hi. This is my boyfriend goes to baton. Finally i sent him a message lake. And there's a little martos. Sorry but it's too much to each other but finally than them like a sexy like eleven in the morning as kind of a joke. 'cause i'm expecting to get back to me that i can be like a hall silent. They get steve at eleven in the morning. It's you know it's early enough for you. But instead he didn't ray back at all for like five hours. I wrote a more like look. You know i get it. I feel feeling this is a pretty strong signal that you're interested in. That's totally okay. Like i hope we can still be friendly I don't want you know i. I don't want you to feel a. I'm going to be upset at all. Just if you're interested. I'm gonna leave the ball in your court and you can just texting when you're back from your vacation. If if you're interested at all which i thought was like a super classy way the handle that kind of situation will then it gets worse. Do you want to hear the start. Those it gets worse. Okay sh like you're overreacting. I'm dating like three girls right now. And i did not time to get back to you. That's honesty so yeah it's like okay And i'm like bottom bitch. Sorry pardon my french. That didn't make me feel good. So i told him that. And then he freaked out like. Oh my god you're talking about feelings and all it's like all right this is this is totally over. It was unfortunate I feel like one of the things i try to do in our relationship is like the really open and honest about what i am feeling like. Not oh this is your fault. Are you need to fix it or oh you 'cause just like hey. I'm feeling this way and i try to be real i with myself and then with my partners about that so that lake major league backfired in the situation so it was interesting. You'd so interesting to me about. This whole thing is like i feel like your story just like it sounds like people that are dating without a husband getting caught up on and i'm like trying to think about it. It's so interesting that you have the same like levels of feelings and whatnot for definitely date. But it's so natural for me to think. But kate you gotta go home to ben better the part of this. Yeah sorry. Go home and cry on ben's shoulder ship and so you need brought me. What is your home general. Oh i brought home pets from from my yes and is the woman he was on a date. Rape came back to the house of cards and champagne. Dying sat and talked with me at the dinner table. I like cried about being laurberg and outlet and they. But i can't even imagine being that woman going home that night.

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Guess what. I had a great date. Tonight i went home with him and met his wife and consoled she was upset because she got her husband came to pick her up. So you're all right so everyone has someone to go home to so boot doubt. Then how did you try to console k. I mean aside from the champagne and the leftover food from your date. You console your wife. Who has broken heart. I i you know. I've been having much better. Luck recently. Happen in pali relationships one person could be having amazing dating life and the other one could be heavily ebbs and flows of everyone. There's really no reason to it. So i i i know i feel like i actually have a lot of of work to do in the of control life situations department because i for me. I'm a problem solver engineer. When i when i see a problem with the solution is obvious to me. I'm like of course you should just do this. Like what's the problem. And so i i did some of that. It was not appreciated. I just didn't make the feeling better. I've i've been just trying to really emphasize. And listen and leah sure. Because i you know i i feel like this. This too shall pass on Just trying to be supportive. What's going on in your life. Your dating life ban. I started going on the occasional date with with. It's been a couple of months of we just have a really good time. After the first day we started texting like every day so you know if nothing else. I have a new best friend that i taught you all the time. We just fun is the same as the potato took her husband. She's berg it'll be the pads. Hey girl she is is spend and a child. It's you know it's like cool family family like we understand each other a lot better for both of us having prior commitments. Is it easier to deep people that are also married in pauley. I find that it is because it's not such a shock to them when really bad day like i'm really stick air right. Alright i almost want to ask you such a basic question like are you guys exclusive now within had to no no. That's not. I do want to go back to kate really quickly before. We wrap this up so our listeners. Don't know. Kate was hitting on one of our guests. Oh yeah the yellow fever episode episode. Kate was hitting on one of the guests and they went on a few different dates. I know the outcome of it. But why don't you update our listeners. On what happened with with that guy. Yeah no. i'm actually. I'm so glad that i met him. He is a wonderful person and we did go on dates and we had a really good time. I didn't feel like there was like a whole bunch of chemistry there And then some kind of person also actually happened in our life. So it kind of fizzled out but I absolutely would go hang out with him actually he. You guys actually reminded me. He respects me like three weeks ago. And i wanted to grab coffee. And just like i totally want to do that. So i need to get back to uniforms. Glen haege it was. It was a really. It was really nice. Did you remember the. I remember speaking of the so. I think we should tell everyone. Now that you guys are about to have a play party. Soon and julian arrogant be attending. We're going to be doing an episode. Everyone get psyched for the personally very intrigued. I'm also nervous on. the nervous. intrigues going through. This appetite has not only. Are we going to record audio. About is of katie. We're bringing someone who's a complete rookie of the scene and we're going to get her perspective of what it's like to go to a sex party for the first time. She has no background which is except for. she's had a lot of sex. So maybe that's an nine hundred true.

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That's real true. You're right you i'd just here. You guys have amazing cheese your sex party. That's what i'm really looking and we got job offers. Who knows what's going to happen. It's going to happen. Party would be the only one that walks with like sleep totally unrelated to sense. We'll not the only one because apparently everyone does. Yeah well i hope. I hope i hope you get something sort of really to walk out. She's like oh. I learned something about quantum physics m julie but how was that sex that was happening at attendance at our parting. They're time the fed was having this really like attributes conversation with this woman and she introduced to me as stripper. Which was her her. She was an exotic dancer. Her blake night job. I guess but by dave she was she was. What is she I can't look over and she and better flailing hands in their. There's animated conversation like hockey. Must wow this could happen for me okay. We can't wait. I'm gonna do lots of jumping jacks right. Now just get revved up for your sex party. We will hear more from you guys soon. I buy so. We really want to say a huge. Thank you to everyone who helped us on voting and commenting on our south by south west panel so just a refresher. We've applied to create a panel for south by southwest next eager on the topic of the future of all dating with virtual reality. We've assembled an incredible group of people who have very opposing views on whether virtual reality is going to help us or hinder us when it comes to finding love so to make this panel reality we have to go through several steps and the first step is an online public vote accounts for thirty percent of the final decision. And we really appreciate everyone who's helped us vote and also comment on the page if you haven't done so yet please help us up. Vote our panel discussion. Because we feel that. This intersection of technology and dating should really be discussed in an open form. The future of dating is going to involve more and more technology whether we like it or not so extremely important for us to have an open discussion and a candidate discussion about both sides of the story and how we can proceed with caution again. The goal for podcasts is to help each other be better and smarter daters and also just be better human beings to each other so we felt this topic would be really fitting with what we've already discussed on our podcast to connect with us visit dateable. Podcast dot com. You can also find us on facebook twitter and instagram. All under dateable podcasts.