BONUS Top 10 Date Ideas that aren't basic for 2019

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The dateable podcast features real stories from real people of how they make modern dating work or not your host you a former dating coach turned dating Insider boss will on each episode. You'll hear commentary from my producer Julie kraftchick and other surprised co-hosts. This episode of datable is brought to you by 500 brunches 500 brunches connect like-minded people with similar interests to meet in real life over brunch. You answer a quick question are about your interest and how you spend your time and then they'll match you in small groups of six to eight at a brunch spot in San Francisco get a free entry in 2 a brunch Now by signing up at five hundred branches and using the code date able. Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of datable a show all about modern dating before we kick off season 8 we wanted to bring you some fun episodes to start the year, right? Cuz 2019 is going to be an awesome year. So for this episode Julie and I have brainstormed top ten dating ideas that are not basic. No, no drinks all this list our coffee, you know, we were talking about some of the dates that we've been on and they were all kind of the same right? It was kind of actually hard to make this one. It was hard. So I really had to stretch but these are some of the date ideas that we should all consider cuz I would love to go on some of these days. Okay. So let's start with number ten miniature golf. Yeah, I watch golf date which ones we go to Urban pie. Yeah. That's a pretty much like every city probably has some mini golf in it. I mean, this one was geared more to adults they have beverages. All of that and there were a lot of dates there, but you could also go to one that may be a little more children-friendly. It still could be a fun date. Yeah, I think there was something nice about doing like an activity that was like competitive but clearly not really competitive. So yeah kind of see like a different side of someone have fun and I like that it's like it doesn't require too much skill, but I think that's like the big piece of it and it's also not super long. Yeah, like I think it's like what an hour. Yeah. I have like sometimes you can get into some games that you're like, oh my God this ever end, right? It's like that. I kind of feel that way about bowling some people might like bowling. It's kind of the same wheel House of types. The one at Urban putt is really interesting. Each little situation is like its own story. So you can create storylines when you're with your date. That's true. Cuz a lot of them do have themes and stuff. It's really fun. I do I do really like it and yep. I also would say that you make it as long as you wanted to write. Like there's no you don't have to be in and out in two hours or whatever. You said a part of you all's and like you kind of have to keep our case, but you can make it stretch or longer. If you want. Have a good time. No one's going to notice if you duck out early. So yeah, you're not like captive. They're either dead idea number nine being a tourist in your own City. This one such a fun one. Cuz sometimes you are so complacent in the city that you live in you forget about the great things about it. Some of my La friends have never been to the Getty. How is that even possible and you have to remember that everyone has their own version of the city. So when you go on a date you're showing someone your version of the city, which yeah, they have never seen. Yeah, and we had a friend that went on a date that like the guy like wrote up like all these places off. Like his favorite spots of the city. So it was exactly what you said and she likes remembers it as like the best date. She ever had that's such a cute idea. I like that a lot and on the bulb contrary of being a tourist in your own City. What about finding some of the unknown parts of the city and I was telling Julia was at my dentist and she had a book that was like top 50 things. You didn't know about San Francisco and there was kind of a scavenger hunt you can go find these murals and these like historical landmarks. So that's also a really fun way to get to know your city. I would say you you want to go from one extreme to the other you want to do something that's like super new and you want to experience it together or do something where you know, you're like the expert in so if you like know your neighborhood really well, yeah show your date, right? So it's either you're really familiar with it or you're like complete novice. All right number seven. This one's Julie's wage. Cuz I've never done this before trampoline. Oh, I've never done it either actually, but I think it sounds like it'd be super fun million boxes that we both have to add to our old list cuz either of us have jobs, but I've been House of error before in San Francisco with like a bachelorette party and like a work outing and I've thought both times I like this to be a super fun day.

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Like I don't know why I thought it would be but I think it's just like anything playful. I really like. Yeah, like I like men that are playful and I like seeing that side of people and I think something like this brings that out in both of you. So I just think you can't not laugh and like have a good time when you're jumping in a trampoline, that's true and twisting your ankle. Well, then you see how they really step up off the ultimate test how they care for you when you're injured but that I like this idea of having an activity where you can be revert back to being children. Yeah dead. Because sometimes we talked about dates as being a little too serious, you know, you want to have these conversations you want to know what they're looking for. But then on the other side is you want to see the the fun side of them. If you're going to be spending a lot of time with them idea number six walking tour of your city. This is a kind of similar to what we were talking about before but I know a lot of you guys go on these walking dates, which is fine. That's great. But what about something like purpose? Yeah walking tour where you're going to specific landmarks and looking at specific things. I also feel like I think people have we've heard on this podcast of people like walking cuz it's like active it's like you can talk and all this but I think sometimes if someone like proposes especially if it's like an early time if someone's like let's go for a walk kind of sounds like they didn't really put much thought into it. Yeah. So if someone's like let's go up there are walking tour. It just feels like so much more effort has gone in I know so literally nothing is probably different but so true cuz my girlfriend birth A date where the guy wanted to go on like a walk so she assumed they were going to go on a walk and do something like there was a destination. Yeah, and he ended up walking her from the Caltrain Station to back to her home. Like he bases just walked her home and that was their date. So that was very anti-climatic. Yeah, and I think also if you prefer biking that's an option like you can rent bikes and your city that's always fun. You could also be like, there's like Food Tours in different cities. There could be a lot of varieties of this tour idea, but it's kind of like having more of like a tour line that you're going after well speaking of doors instead of walking or biking what about like a brewery a wine or a weave tour. Yeah. I think they're still kind of like having tourists in general like there's something that feels like a unique and interesting about it. Like I'm feeling you're like discovering something. Yeah. We're like again, it's like kind of like, oh, let's go get a drink at a wine bar. Okay, everyone does that? Yeah, but if you're like wow, Corona Winery and taste wine. It feels like you're like doing something active. Yeah and like discovering this like new world. Yeah. No, it's literally the same thing and also you feel like a tourist in York City mm to that feeling like your Cities novel again. And we tore I would totally do that just don't smoke too much way because you want to be you want to be having conversation. We had asked on the show that did the wine and we'd yeah, so we thought of that and then I think Brewery tours like we mentioned is always a good way to there's a lot of those like right in the city where like Wine Tours might not be as accessible. Right and with that combination, then you have to find somewhere to take a nap at some point idea number for a picnic. I love this. It's like old-school. It's adorable. Our friend was telling us about like one of the first dates she had with her fiance and he like packed up a bag of meat it like grilled in somewhere and like you can yep. Like that extent or you can just like pack like want and in cheese or like do something like I don't know like there's a lot of things you can do with the picnic that's really cute and easy and romantic. It's like so impressive game shows up on a date and they have a whole picnic planned out. It feels like there's a lot of thought that wanted to it. I think that's really where that one's coming from 2 and also I think like there's something about like a nice nice sunny day and just like relaxing at a park in general like so I mean we could have had that on the list but I think the park plus a picnic just brings it to the next level again. It's kind of like when you're taking a walk versus doing like a walking tour like it feels like a thought has gone into it. It's more of a date and if you're finding the if you're struggling with the right time to have a picnic, how about us Sunset? Oh, yeah. So romantic and I think people don't everybody's like, oh, let's meet around 7 or let's meet around 5 a.m. But they don't think about beating around the sunset. Yeah, I think one of the best dates I ever had was not like a good person date, but it was like a great actual date was watching the sunset near Golden Gate Bridge.

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Oh, yeah, like a bottle of wine and there was something just like so romantic about it and nice and I was still remember it to this day. I love that. It's time to take a quick break so we can tell you about our current sponsors Sola joined five hundred thousand couples who views Zola to reinvent the wedding planning and registry experience making the happiest moments and couples lives even happier. Now, I asked a friend of mine why she's Ola and she mentioned how easy it was to register for newlywed life their store had the widest selection of gifts at all different prices with over 500 top brands from the same thing as an Airbnb. Also. She says she just loved their free wedding websites that she created in minutes. They're over 100 beautiful wedding website designs to choose from that fit any couples style and everything. For wedding you can easily add photos stories about how you two met. You can even add an FAQ section to help address those awkward questions. Like can I bring my kids or do I have a plus one to start? You're from a website or registering go on solo. That's again that's now back to the show. And if you're you want to be a little cultured and highbrow you can always go to a museum. Yeah. Yeah number two. There's so many museums in every city even find like the funny ones like like the The Sex Museum in New York and there's like Bodies exhibit. Yeah Museum of weird medical Mysteries. Yeah, and if you're not like super cultured you could also do this new wave of museums. Oh, yeah and eat opium. You should I scream that are just like more Goofy and playful too. So it really can run a gamut based on your interests. And the beauty of museums is that again, you have all these talking pieces and so everything is a conversation. Agent starter around you you creating this experience. Yeah. If you go to these like more like playful museums, if you're like a little further. I don't know if I'd recommend this really date one, but you could take a look a lot of cute photos together. Like there's some of these things that happen with that that can be good momentum's later on. Yes, and our idea number one. There's this is in no particular order. I don't know that's why I'm counting down but this is also an idea of how it for a while never actually done it on a date is a class of some learn a new skill. You talked about cooking classes. Yeah, I think cooking class. I've also never done this on a date either but like I've done cooking classes before just with like friends and stuff and I've also thought like oh, so we were really great date like it just like feels like I know there's something about learning something together and like I know there's always like an aphrodisiac with eating too. So that's like cooking. I think of what it could be like Pottery it could it be like something else that like is interesting to the two of you song? Doesn't have to be cooking either whenever I travel I look at Airbnb experiences in the cities, but then I never thought about doing that in my own single by wouldn't do it in your own City. Yeah, you could learn a new skill or even learn a new Cuisine or you know, get some new knowledge. Yeah, and you get to share that experience together. So that's also something to look into but off the day. The thing is like these dates. They're low effort. I mean, you don't have to plan their super low effort, but they come off not right which is like the beauty of them and they come off so much better than eating out for drinks or coffee, which are so generic. If you're doing something like let's say one of these things on this list of ten is something you would do anyway, right, you know on your bowels like what month with one of our past guests mentioned on her episode was like this like dating around experiences more like what are some things and some places I've been wanting to go to and like, how can I bring someone along so well, Like while you obviously want to have a connection and meet someone just being realistic not every day tens that way. So at least at a minimum you get to do something you enjoy and then at a maximum wage to actually do something that you enjoy walk connecting with someone so I would say, you know after going through this list, there are some things that I think we should all avoid when it comes to planning Dead one is anything where you have no opportunity to talk to each other like a movie or going to really aren't good for like early dates know because you cannot talk right? You're really annoying right? I think a show also I question that one too cuz like there's still a nice that you can like talk after but like during it like really not getting that time together. Yeah, but some people would argue on the show one is that at least like if you're dancing there's some like body chemistry that's happening. So a dancing dog Show I'm like a music show you like to see Mary Poppins like dancing like a movie or 550 category. But like oh and there's something I could see that one being pro and con because they'll on is that you still really can't talk but the pro is that there is some like potential, you know, there is a little bit of body chemistry, but then you can gauge that from anything else to write like I think it's more important to have that verbal communication when you're going on these first, I think so too.

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Yeah. I think the other one also is like there's nothing wrong with bars, especially like on the very first date if you want something that's like it's not going to turn someone off per se right. Like I think what I would suggest though with black bars and restaurants anything that's the more generic is like somewhere that is like set up for Success because I think different environments Foster more of a potential Kem Three like a bar I think gets the rap of a good first date because a lot of times they're darker you're sitting side-by-side like there's obviously alcohol involved. Yeah, you know, I think though there is something to be said for that though over then like a dinner or like something on the first date where you're like across from someone where it's a hard to like make that like hand touch or like something subtle if like you do watch a show that I think at the end of the day like obviously want to pick great dates and set things up for success, but it all comes down to like your Chemistry with someone. So make sure no matter what you're doing. You're getting a conversation in and guys mix it up. Okay, if you're taking the same person where you're taking the the same dates to the same place all the time and the bartender recognizes. You were like the door person recognizes you that's not a good look. Also I think too. It's like if you do an activity date, you could also follow it with something that's a little more like intimate in terms of birth. Versation like you could do the golf, but get a drink before after or get dinner after like there's so many ways to like combo it. It doesn't have to just be like one hour mini golf club, right? Yeah. Don't talk besides we play this game, right? Yeah keep it versatile. And when you're presenting date ideas, I always like it when someone presents a few ideas to me and I get to choose vs. Off. Like I think we should do this. But like if you give a few of these ideas out, it shows that you've really put in the effort. Yeah, cool. All right. Those are your top ten dating ideas off 2019 that aren't basic and like it I'm going to write these I'm so doing the trampoline. I'm not going you know luck with that should be on the wind or are you guys again? We're still looking for guests for a season eight of you or someone, you know would be a great guest on Thursday. Deval please reach out to us dateable podcast. Okay with that said let's wrap this up stay dateable. This episode of datable is brought to you by 500 brunch. It's just 500 brunches connects like-minded people with similar interests to meet in real life over brunch. You answer a quick question are about your interest and how you spend your time. And then they'll match you in small groups of six to eight at a brunch spot in San Francisco get a free entry into a brunch Now by signing up at five hundred branches, and using the code date able if you didn't know Thursday, we have a revamped web site with articles videos and content all about modern dating. You can also find our premium y Series where we dissect analyze and offer solutions to some of the most common dating conundrums. We've had some great feedback about how actionable these episodes are. So check them out on our website or iTunes music also visit the site today to see the latest job. Coaching for we connect you with dateable approved experts to help with everything from dating profile reviews coaching and even Gathering real feedback about your dating style in a personalized fordable way to connect with us visit dateable podcast, You can also find us on Facebook Twitter and Instagram all under dateable podcast. Don't forget to subscribe and Auto download the podcast on iTunes or your favorite podcast player. So you never miss an episode.